there’s something i want to remember every single morning.
but i don’t. i wake up and go through my programmed routine and i forget. in the beginning i didn’t forget. and i made myself promise that i wouldn’t.
i don’t want to forget to remember to live this day as if i had 4 months left to live.
like so many people out there, i learned this lesson the hard way. it happened to someone close to me. in fact, now that i think about it, it has been a similar situation for several people close to me. why should you listen? because i promise that if this news hasn’t crossed your path yet, it will someday.
do you know what my dad did when he found out he had 4 months to live? he moved, within weeks, two doors down from me in an OK apartment complex in dallas, texas. do you know where he was living? in a million dollar or so house on a golf course on hilton head island – away from his children – away from his family.
when he got the word that he was dying, his very first thought was me, my sister and my brother. and my mom. he didn’t give a shit that he was going to a rented one bedroom apartment – all that mattered was he was close to his family. he didn’t care about feeling uncomfortable about asking our forgiveness, he did it. and quick.
i could go on more about this but this encouragement for today isn’t about my dad. it’s about you + me. how can we live each day with this mindset? here is what i thought about:
1. close your eyes. you just got this horrible news. what is very most important to you? make it that important every single day and act as such. pick up and move to dallas, so to speak.
2. make it right. if there is anything off kilter, make it right, now. don’t wait for this day to come. make it right RIGHT NOW.
3. make other people important. taking a lesson from dad, i absolutely became the center of his life. and i wasn’t before. he was genuinely interested in what i was doing, saying, learning. my favorite memories ever were in the morning before work, i would see his bald head bouncing down the outside walk to my house for coffee. i loved it. he couldn’t wait to wake up and talk to me about my day and what i was going to do. i need to be like that every day with everyone i encounter.
4. get over yourself. and your fears, insecurities and inhibitions. it’s not about you. it’s about your time with people important to you. big difference. so say i’m sorry, say i’m scared, say let’s pray, say i love you – stop with the inside voice telling you stupid things. you only have a limited time.